Curmudgeon, Electrical Engineer, Guitar God Wannabe
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Where the mighty arms of Atlas hold the heavens from the Earth
Posts: 3,403
Conflict with family members can be an awful, exhausting thing. And I think of good rule of thumb is if you don't have anything to give, and/or if interacting with someone is draining you emotionally, then you're under no obligation to do anything you don't want to do. Maybe things will change between her and you one day. But for now (which is the only place that matters), this is how it is.
Doesn't mean you don't care about her. Doesn't mean you don't wish the best for her. What it does mean is dealing with her carries a higher price that you're able to pay.