Originally Posted by
enfinthechange 
Those 2 causes sound about right... but my husband won't do therapy or counselling. ... he thinks I'm self pitying if I talk about it, that relationships shouldn't need work and that he knows what counsellors will say so there's no point.
I have to heal me and learn to live with the things I'm not happy with. .... I have to leave to be happy with unfullfillment and not have obsessive thoughts about men who have a sparkle in their eye when the smile at me.... I just can't quite kill off that part of me. Nor can I change my husband....
That makes him sound bad. .. he's not, he can be lovely... but he's quite stern at times with a great memory and no wavering or emotional arguing...... he's very dedicated to our kids and home and works very hard! It's me that has the issues.... mostly!