We all have addictive personalities, so it makes total sense to replace addiction with another. I am curious about "inappropriate longing or misplaced affection?" Why do you classify it as this? Is it possible that you were distant from others when you were drinking and are now trying to mend that? In my experience, the further you get from the last drink, the more "present" you become. For me, I am having emotions, experiences, and everything life throws at us without an alcohol induced fog. I believe many would call it mindfullness. I am striving for this and know it will be difficult, but I was just going through the motions of life for over a decade and don't want that anymore. I hope you find a good balance. Good luck.