You do not have to be a player in the drama.
they always get me involved in their sh*t.
You don't HAVE to accept their invitation.
i get one of "those" calls from him
If you recognize it's one of "those" calls, why do you stay on the line to listen? Wouldn't a quick "Sorry, I've got to run, love you!" serve you better than listening?
i cant keep dealing with this. i shouldnt have to deal with this.
There's your answer. You said it.
Do something to be nice to yourself and enjoy the rest of this holiday!