I alot of times ask my H what he thinks about how I feel. If something he is doing is making me crazy.. I first ask myself is this just how he is? or, is it something I need to talk to him about? Am I wanting change or not accepting something that will most likely not change? I also ask myself what do I want or need in a given situation.
I have found if I ask for what I need or want I usually get it and if I don't ask I need not expect that he is going to read my mind...