Cheers Ken, great post and food for thought as always.
Personally the biggest and most important change was finally accepting there was a problem.
Only in early sobriety but this is a keeper of that I am certain - changes I made initially were seeking the relevant help off my own back because I genuinely wanted & needed too / plenty of reading and listening to others experiences / sticking close to SR / attending sessions & appointments / distancing myself from drinking & drugging friends / cancelling all planned trips and parties .
I've also been working hard at showing I am serious about this with those closest to me & trying my best to mend my marriage thro my mistakes / listening more and not being so judgmental / - channelling my obsessions into more productive areas and practising an all round healthy lifestyle / eating & exercise - also looking for new interests and hobbies.
Trying to be an all round better person .
One thing is for sure this place has been a fantastic help.