Bluehawaii......you don't get it. It is your house and you can leave any time you want.....because YOU CHOOSE to.
Your power is deomonstrated in the fact that you CHOOSE your action. YOU are making the boundary for yourself.....th at y ou will not live in the misery of that household, any longer.
You own half of the house...and you are not giving up ownership in a legal separation. You will still have your op art of the house...no matter what y ou do.
If you get your own apartment...at least for a while....believe me...she will not get any j oy from that....but, she cant emotionally pistol-whip you any longer...and she will have to start taking some personal responsibility.
dandylion