Then I realized - I'm feeling inferior to him. And it's not HIM that's making me feel that way it's ME. Ugghh.
Based on what you said here, I think you are much further along in your recovery than you realize. You recognize that you are responsible for your feelings - huge!
Your post is very honest and so normal. I think the vast majority of folks would be experiencing the same feelings you so clearly expressed. I know I've felt a sense of self loathing for being a bit jealous of people who make great, healthy changes. I try to turn my thinking around to instead use their experience as a motivator for me to work on me a bit harder.
I wonder if talking about some of these feelings with your husband about role shifts in an honest and non threatening way (when there isn't a major decision to make ) may clear the air a little? You know the dynamics best, so go with what feels right to you and keep focusing on your stuff. Congrats to both of you on working hard on recovery!