Originally Posted by Beccybean

What's the point of stopping your own drinking ruining your life and then letting someone elses' drinking do the job?

Although saying that my partner still hits it pretty hard at the weekends as well. I just try to accept it as HIS problem and don't bother talking to him while he's drunk and disorderly. I need my energy to focus on my own recovery, and I'm not his keeper. I don't interfere with his drinking. He doesn't interfere with my sobriety. And I make sure that at the weekends I surround myself with sober friends, either at AA meetings or elsewhere. And if he falls asleep on the sofa I don't wake him up. Shhhhhhh.

Not ideal, but then life isn't. I figure, better the devil I know. But then we've been together 25 years now, and he put up with a lot of nonsense from me while I was drinking. If we'd been together for a short amount of time I wouldn't be so accepting though. I'd be offski!!