Originally Posted by
sourbaby1986 
Yeah, I want to be friends with these people and I haven't seen them in a long time. So yes I do want to go. I would almost rather go and be pretend happy and come home miserable than not go. I really want these people to like me and I want to be their friend! I'm lonely and that, for me, is the biggest trigger.
For me, part of getting sober was learning from scratch how to be true to myself. I stopped pretending to be someone I was not in the hope that people would like me.
Now I'm just me.
If you are wanting to fit in and for them to like you and they are persuading you to try the wine, laughing at you not drinking and telling you you are boring because you aren't trying the wine what will you do? Will you say no i don't drink or will you start tasting the wine because you want to fit in and want them to like you?
You don't have to answer me - just ask the question to yourself- you know the answer.