Curmudgeon, Electrical Engineer, Guitar God Wannabe
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Where the mighty arms of Atlas hold the heavens from the Earth
Posts: 3,403
Magnolia...
Welcome to the Board. I'm sad that you've had to come to us, especially this time of year, but I'm thankful that you're here.
GardenMama has given you some very solid feedback, but I'd like to expand upon her post. Your best move, in my view, is to assume the worst and assume that your AD will not seek recovery, even if that means she loses her daughter in the process. Based on this, your granddaughter needs to be protected at all costs. She deserves to have as stable a life as possible during her formative years.
We have amongst our ranks plenty of mothers who've been through the wars. I imagine they're going to sound off on this thread over the next day or so. When they do, pay close attention. They are incredibly strong, incredibly wise, and so kind and empathetic.
Keep us posted, and again, Welcome to the Board.