Originally Posted by
findingme26 
Thanks, Kboys. Did you end up staying together and getting past it?
He moved out for a brief period of time last October 2014, but then I let him come home when he promised to stay sober and end communication with her.... he did stay dry for nine months, but no real recovery efforts... and it took several months after he moved back for communication to stop completely with her... they still worked together for a while.. he told me he only talked to her when he "absolutely had to" but I knew better... The continued lies and minimizing almost hurt worse than the initial sting of learning about it.
He started drinking again in July, things went to **** again, and we are now separated, and have no contact at this time...
I spent a lot of the last year being angry at myself for allowing him to move back when I did... But I'm starting to forgive myself. I tried my best to make it work, and I don't regret that anymore.
Take care of you and your kiddos!!