@Patricia-you doing ok now? I'm sorry your husband is being a jerk again. Keep your power! Don't let him drag you down. If he wants to be miserable let him. You don't have to let him suck you into it! Have you tried killing him with kindness? Have you tried just smiling and saying thank you when he's rude? Make a game out of it! That will just **** him off more when he sees he doesn't get to you.
For example: if he says "Patricia, you are an idiot and never do anything right!" Just smile and say "why thank you dear, I love you too!"
After a few times he will stop because he will start to get angry that he's not getting a reaction out of you.
Worth a try?