Originally Posted by ScottFromWI

From what you write there Sadie I cannot see even one reason why you SHOULD take this trip.

1. you only go out of guilt
2. you wish you could spend the time somewhere else
3. you are already fantasizing about drinking while you are there
4. you recently visited your mother already

The fact that you are here asking us makes it pretty clear to me that not going would be the best decision, but we cannot make that for you. Would your mother be upset? Perhaps, but i'm sure there's plenty of other things in her life that upset her too, and frankly that's her problem not yours. Your sobriety is important to you - and if you cannot be honest with them and tell them why you aren't coming, then just tell them you aren't coming. They will get over it.