realize that if you don't believe that you deserve better, look at your children and be aware that they are absorbing all of the negative behavior and will draw down upon that at some point in their lives, it's an awful feeling as a parent. Yes they blame us for everything but I'd rather be blamed for taking them out of this situation than for keeping them in it. I wish you strength as you make a decision that can only bring good things for you and your children.
Hugs IWOS777
Joie