Originally Posted by
OpenTuning 
Hi keeppushing,
Were you really advised to try moderate drinking, in the hope that it might lead to abstinence? Not seen many people succeed with that approach on here, and doesn't appear to be working too well for you either from what you've written.
Not at all, it was about how to look at success. My aim is 100% abstinence. Sorry for the misunderstanding.
I'm a bit surprised your therapist gave you that diagnosis about grief of lost dreams, and then didn't offer help with finding ways to deal with it that don't involve alcohol.
She has, but as with all therapy you have to try several before you find what works.
I don't know if any of this might apply for you, and how helpful it is. But it might help to really analyse what it is you're grieving.
I think you hit the nail right on the head. I'd also like to thank you for opening up about your own personal experience. It helped a lot in understanding myself.
Thanks a lot.
KP