What do I do in the meantime? I feel there's only so much I can do. He has our car to go to meetings and is gone the majority of the day, doesn't get home until later. It is christmas and I'd like to be able to do things with our girls, but....hard to. What could I do to better understand him to ease the misunderstanding and silence? I have to admit, after having sex for the first time in what felt like forever and being able to cuddle, I feel like some of the tension has lessened and I feel more comfortable in what's going on.