Originally Posted by
SoberLeigh 
I am sorry to hear that your BIL is in such bad shape. I hope that he is receptive to your advice, Jeff.
Above all, protect your own sobriety while you are around him; do you have a back-up plan to get away if things get touchy - staying in a hotel instead of with the family, have plans to sight-see, etc.?
Oh yes. My wife and I will be completely independent out there. We are fortunate, we own both homes and have a vehicle. So I can escape any time I want.