Hi Iwishonstars
I think, however hard it is for us addicts to change, it's probably harder on our partners because the change is kinda foisted upon you guys.
I was never addicted to heroin but alcohol was bad enough - it was the biggest challenge of my life and it took all my effort to stay sober.
I wasn't in a relationship at the time, but if I had been I'm sure I would have been a subject of a post a lot like this one.
I was so terrified of not being able to ever get sober that I gave it my *everything* and I'm glad I did because I'd probably be dead now otherwise.
It took me around 90 days to start to work stuff out and have any idea of who sober me was.
I don't know how to make someone talk about stuff if they're focused on other stuff. If I did I'd tell you.
I hope that when your husband gets used to recovery he'll start to have a little more time interest and effort for you and the other important things in his life.
He's trying to do a good thing here - but I'm sorry it's hard on you.
Please know there is support here - you're not alone
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