Aellyce hang in there time has a way of healing things. Its been the year of death in my house as well. Lucky for me its been ok My wife however has had a tough time of it as it was all on her side of the family. Now we are dealing with another simlier issue too and its pretty difficult.
Its probably easier for me to say as like I said for some reason I'm personally not being yanked very emotionaly through it all (maybe i'm broken i dunno) but I do know things will pass it'll ease up. Thankfully these emotions are transient and better times will come.