nowin, thank you for this. It's very pertinent for me right now too. I KNOW, and have known, for a long time, what the facts are, even if I didn't have any details. I still struggle w/a deep sense of unreality, w/pain that is generated b/c, as you posted, "It hurts because we hoped so deeply the facts could change. " I still can't quite believe I am where I am. Some part of me, deep inside, just keeps crying out, "but it CAN'T be! It just CAN'T!"
But it is.
And so this has to be my course: "Have the courage to accept the facts and the pain that comes along with that acceptance. Step strongly into a future where you will not be taking on relentless spears of pain."
I will be adding Dr. Campbell to my recovery reading list. Again, thank you for this timely post.