Hi PL,
My heart aches for you as I can only imagine the emotional challenge for all involved, especially you. I do not have experience or advice to offer but it appears as if your daughter has quite a bit of self work to do and indefinite custody of your grandson, if possible, is in everyone's best interest.
For your grandson,
health and safety are key, both of which were at risk during this last bender. Can they now reasonably be assured? This is up to your daughter alone to work towards. How does she feel about this current situation and with whom is she working? What is her plan? This is all up to her and she is darn lucky to have your support.
There are a few forums here with excellent experience and advice dedicated for family and friends of alcoholics:
Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information NEW! Family Members of Addicts and Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
Hugs for you.
