Agreed. One of the things my daughter and I had to come to terms with was that her mother was not going to be able to "be there" for us. Not because she didn't want to, but because she couldn't. Alcoholics simply cannot do so except after long-term recovery.
Originally Posted by
LexieCat 
I think you're smart not to count on your husband for support at a time like this. As much as he might WANT to support you, alcoholics just don't have it in them to provide emotional support for another person.
I just read some of your other posts, and I see you are four years clean/sober and that you are hoping your husband will do the same. I hope he does, too, but unless and until that happens, your marital problems are likely to progress right along with his disease.
Have you been to Al-Anon? I found it to be an absolute lifeline when I was at the end of my rope.
BTW, I'm seven years sober, myself, and the stuff I learned in Al-Anon helps me every day in navigating all kinds of life situations, and it has enhanced my own sobriety.