but bottomline I do not think I can trust him.
then what in the hell are you doing?? you say he has something going with another woman, is a narcissist, manipulator, untrustworthy, he's gone so far as to ask to go to YOUR therapist, and you are all la ti da look at us just friends.
i'm gonna have to call BS here hon. this is NOT healthy at ANY level, and you spent a lot of paragraphs trying to rationalize it otherwise.
this isn't the same guy that you worked with when you first came here is it? cuz i just got a real creepy sense of Deja Vu.................