Welcome to SR, Joy! I'm sorry you're dealing with this but you'll find a lot of support here. I'm afraid I will concur with the previous posters- you can't force him to change. This is from personal experience, back when I was on the other side of table. I loved my wife at the time so completely that it ached...but that didn't stop me from drinking every night. Alcohol is really powerful to an alcoholic, and we will burn our lives completely down to the ground and still keep drinking. Back then I wasn't ready to stop, and you need to want to for yourself. It just doesn't work to do it because someone is "forcing" you to.