If any of you cannot get to an al-anon meeting, you can order literature from the website. I would recommend "How it works" as well as "Courage to Change" or "One Day At a Time". Maybe you can call them and see if there is someone who will be a telephone sponsor for you? Any chance you can get to weekend meetings? Even if you have to travel a bit, I'm sure it'll be worth it.
Also, Co-dependent No more by Melody Beattie is a great place to start. I believe you can get that through the bookstore on SR.
Also, have you tried counselling? It really helped me to put some important things in perspective.
Once you start addressing your core issues, other things will flow.