Hi Priscilla-- I am also mourning a break up with my AXBF. He told me so many times that he wanted help. He went to rehab, inpatient and outpatient. He went to AA and got a sponser. And as soon as a trigger happened -- relapse and hiding. I know he wants to stop. He just cant. I have finally accepted that I cannot do anything to help him. He needs to help himself. Every time I get involved or try to be there for him, I am the one who ends up miserable and angry. I know that my AXBF loves me and I love him more that I know I should. But I have to save myself. Your AXBF clearly has been some tools for recovery. When he is ready, he will use them. I often think about that when I get sad or depressed or angry. Hugs to you. These boards have saved my sanity.
Owl