My ex is fabulous at this-flying into rages when confronted with the reality of his actions (or lack therof). I used to get scared-bc he had been violent in the past-until I realized I needed to lean forward, laugh at the seemingly distraught toddler raging and throwing a tantrum, and not let him bully me any longer. I never thought I would come to the day where I truly don't want to ever hear from him again-all I hear is wah, wah, wah when he talks. And I've been able to spot the cycles-it's easy once you know what you're dealing with. Anyway, this article was posted in my spouses of narcs support group....thought it was hella accurate for not only dealing with narcs but also A's....bc so much of the behavior is the same:
http://thenarcissistatwork.com/2012/...-monkey-dance/
Enjoy!
Peace to y'all today
