Remember, too, that lawyers (I am one) have obligations to explain EVERYTHING. It's kind of like those warning labels or inserts on drugs that explain everything that could possibly go wrong in terms of side effects, etc. It doesn't mean you're likely to experience any of them, but if they don't disclose and something happens they get sued because they didn't disclose/explain.
So even though you are hearing all the details about what could happen in a divorce, that doesn't mean they WILL happen, as ladyscribbler pointed out. Most cases settle.