Originally Posted by
FreeOwl 
We moved on, we created another world - for ourselves and for those we love.
Great post, and this particular part was well said! I often talk about "changing everything" when I offer support. I think that often scares people. It's easy to confuse the words "change" and "abandon", and I can totally see why that would make a newcomer uneasy.
The fact that you phrase this transformation as a "creation" for both the recovering alcoholic AND their loved ones, is great way to phrase it.
Giving up the 'alcoholic lifestyle' does not mean that you're giving up your friends, family, and relationships. It means embarking on a new path, altering your course and heading towards a healthier and happier destination. Those you'd like to keep aboard will happily join you.