jsb, I hope you got some sleep and got your paper done.
I know we talked a lot about mothers yesterday, but they really can make life painful. I often got the feeling that my mother was jealous of me or my choices because I was much more free-spirited, much less inhibited and pretty much the opposite of her. I don't know that my way was better, just different. Again, I think it's hard for mothers to separate themselves from their female children and there is just a tension between younger/older women sometimes.
Regardless, I would pull back from that relationship. That's what I did and it was the only thing that worked for me...js, your mom can take care of herself - and she certainly doesn't deserve to be pampered if she can't observe the basic human polite manners.
The best thing I did was put a big distance physically and emotionally between me and my mother.
Bix:
Looks like the old "Laugh In" stage.