Originally Posted by
Soberpotamus 
I would like to point out that if I or others discuss parents, childhood, and the past, that in no way indicates we are living in the past and bemoaning our childhood. Sometimes, it's necessary and healthy to talk about and divulge things that, if held inside, can be hurtful and damaging.
Specifically, if I discuss my mom or grandmom (or dad or grandad), it's not an indictment or a finger pointing blame game
It's anything but that really.
We all come to healing in different ways.
My parents are lousy (they are both still alive) but that had nothing to do with my drinking alcoholically. I definitely shut them out of my thoughts and barely mention them to anyone. Maybe it's wrong but I have closed the door on their part in my life.
From the ridiculous to the sublime - I have just eaten melted chillie chocolate with vanilla ice cream - get in!