I would like to point out that if I or others discuss parents, childhood, and the past, that in no way indicates we are living in the past and bemoaning our childhood. Sometimes, it's necessary and healthy to talk about and divulge things that, if held inside, can be hurtful and damaging.
Specifically, if I discuss my mom or grandmom (or dad or grandad), it's not an indictment or a finger pointing blame game
It's anything but that really.
We all come to healing in different ways.