Blaming does not accomplish anything. In my early recovery process (day 8 today) I realize I am human and have made mistakes hurt others and myself, but also I have been hurt too. It hurts when loved ones point fingers and place the blame on someone else and not take accountability for their own behaviors or actions. I feel the only way to grow is to take a look at ourself to see what we need to change and work on that issue, in the long run it will make you a better healthier person. Wishing you serenity today.