Originally Posted by
jjj111 
Maybe you should try out actually being separated? Like maybe a whole month or two with no sleepovers or physical intimacy? It seems like you want that on some level.
We did have a "real separation" at one time until it turned back into us trying to work things out again. I realize now that we are both in no position to be in a healthy relationship with each other and it's time a for a "real separation" again. My focus is on me and my children.