I am in the same boat. My boys are 16 and 15 and my youngest is 11. I've been told time and again that a lot of the poor planning and inconsideration is their ages and has nothing to do with me. I try to see them as much as possible, text them every other day or so to say hello, call them a few times a week, and hope to see them soon. It is soooo hard to not take the rejection personally. It tears my heart out because I do miss the boys terribly. I am here for them and let them know that and I do know that they love me.
Sue