Hi - need help
My husband seems to think bc he isn't a drunk like I was that his drinking doesn't cause problems. He feels entitled to it. I've struggled with the feeling that he doesn't really care about me or he'd stop drinking..and then I say I know better bc I couldn't just stop bc I loved someone..so then I reason that he can't actual stop either
But he swears up and down he's not an alcoholic.. That he just likes to get drunk..he likes to wind down that way
.he doesn't have to have it he chooses to
Yada yada all the stuff I said to. And I should KNOW better then to reason with someone who likes the drug or drink that much... But it doesn't make it any easier, it doesn't make it hurt less. I just feel we live these separate lives now..and his drinking tends to make him do stupid things he .
Should regret..but doesn't?? Its like there's no shame.. But I totally get that feeling of ruining their good time when I was drinking and now when I'm not. It puts you in a very lonely place in your marriage.. It seperates you..makes distance.. Walls..in your heart weather you realize it or not. You know in your mind that you can never be a part of that part of their life again but in your heart you miss it. Bc it added chemistry??!? And then you think it's pretty ****** up that you can't have chemistry with out it but that is hour reality. And it sucks..and it hurts
.and you just have to keep praying and keep doing what you know to do to stay sober..and pray that one day you will know..and be strong enough to deal with it..or to leave....(and when i kept saying "you" I meant Mr fyi..in case that you wasn't understood.