Hi step
I was abused too....many are. And neglected....think that was actually worse. You've done the steps right? Did that at least help you uncover where your resentments and anger lie? I have found that much of my angst (although I'm pretty mellow now) was directed at myself. And of course, through my drinking, I did a lot of things that made my self hatred grow. Oh and there's that self pity stuff. Totally useless if one wants to be happy.
Counseling. Group therapy with other abused. But truly? The deep desire to let it all go. At the end of the day, that is key. It's like quitting drinking, if one doesn't want it more than anything, all the support in the world will not work. It stops with me. I must not let my past control my present.
I know you've been wanting to help others, and you are by simply being here and sharing your story. Maybe before formally sponsoring others you should put all that passion into yourself.