Austin4Wyo

Legitimate questions, I feel. I really do feel empathy, and I see your point. I wasn't clear with that empathy.

I understand the anger and upset. I've been there with alcoholic relationships, and I've been the cause of it. Often, though, both in my own case and in the past, a quick, reactive ultimatum of "No X behavior or Y consequence will happen," isn't terribly well thought out. There are farther reaching consequences than simply throwing someone out of a household.

Like you, I worry that unless there is internal work done, anger will remain. I was trying to get to that point by posing those questions. I often was able to make the necessary, constructive mental leaps by having questions posed to me rather than being advised or otherwise related to. No offense was intended.