Originally Posted by
Wisconsin 
It's the same on the codie end, I think. You people are the only ones I could come to and say that I snooped on my AH then spent two hours driving all over the south suburbs past every bar (no small feat in Milwaukeeland!), determined to catch my AH in a lie. Because you are the ones who both understand/relate, and were in a position to call my on my own craziness.
This was my thought exactly. Earlier this week my best friend was telling me about reading her husband's text messages when she was angry at him - something I use to do and justify. Earlier today my mom got off the phone without saying "I love you" because she was mad at me - something I use to do and thought I was making a point.
People that make insane and/or poor behavior choices seem to find others with similar behavior patterns. It's really awkward and lonely when you find that you've outgrown old behaviors though and your friends haven't.