He is not being punished bc of his dad. You've got to stop coddling your son-he's in trouble bc it IS serious....and it foreshadows a very long downward life for your son if soneone does not intervene. Your husband cannot and will not intervene-that leaves you.,,you HAVE to see the reality of the situation. and own your part in enabling it-I'm not trying to be harsh, but real. Please get some help for yourself and your son.