Hello Plink.
I'd call Al Anon. Here's a link to their national site. Ask them for help locating a meeting that might focus on parents of addicts. Also, they might help you get in touch with someone who has been exactly where you are now.
http://al-anon.org/find-a-meeting
Have you and your husband ever done any counseling about the addict in your family? I am not recommending you hire this counselor, but I have found her blog and free email newsletter helpful.
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