It's like, I was never really going after him for that money. I don't feel I was entitled to it, even though he screwed things up. I would not use him screwing things up to affect his money. I just wanted to know if I could use that as leverage, if that was legit, to get things moving. Even if that did work where he would owe me about $1400, I would never have taken that. I would have paid him what I felt he overpaid me.
The only way to deal with my ex is to take actions like this. Yes, as of 1/2016 he will be owing me alimony again. I thought I could take care of it this year, by threatening, (which could be court approved) to accepting that I owe him $480. and he would feel that he won and I lost.
I would never take money from someone that I wasn't entitled to.