THIPPY.......yes, I can imagine that if you say "the years of fighting".....the kids have, no doubt, noticed it, also.
Kids hate....hate....fighting in the home. They may not understand the (total) dynamics .....but they remember how it made them feel and they can still carry the effects into their own adulthood.....I learned how much the discord in the home affects them by reading in the Adult Child of Alcoholics section and also
by talking to lots of people about their childhoods.....
Dr. Phil is always talking about not fighting in the home.....because he says that it changes who they are......
This disease just affects the whole family.....I guess that is why it is called the family disease......sigh.......
dandylion