Originally Posted by
dandylion 
THIPPY......regarding your question to me....about what you should say to him, now.....
I would say to just say nothing. Just drop the rope. If he asks you a question or permission.....Just tell him to use his own judgement---that you are too tired to be his warchdog, anymore.
It IS so hard to be the drinking police or in the mother role with another adult---watching, monitoring....setting "rules" (not the same as boundaries)......
LOL...in my particular situation....I found it so much easier to take care of toddlers than a drinking adult.....
Please understand that this is my suggestion.....but, of course, you will have to use your own judgement.....
Yes, I think you're right. That's basically what I've been doing since I joined this forum. He doesn't really ask the question, but he states that he'd like to have a drink (which never means just one) and waits for my reaction. Lately, I just try not to react. I haven't perfected that yet, but I'm working on it.
And you're absolutely right about toddlers versus As.