This is -- of course, because it's coming from you -- extremely insightful.
Yes, I experience frustrations and annoyance but my confidence in my abilities is solid, as is my confidence in my ability to discern and accept good feedback. In my last review, one of my folks said, "SparkleKitty could do a better job at making everyone she supports feel like her number one priority." Pre recovery this comment would have devastated me. Now I am thrilled that I have somehow managed to convinced 16 out of the 17 people I support that they are number one for me.
I try to remember that hurtful criticism says more about the person giving it than about me.
And now I am remembering a lot of pre recovery devastation in the workplace. It was not a comfortable transition for me into confidence, and into seeing myself a valuable and equal member of the team. But you know what they say (and I am living proof), being uncomfortable never killed anyone.