Donny, you say that you love your wife, but in order to love someone else, you have to learn to love yourself first. If you actually think about loving yourself, do you think that you can love yourself if you are puking and pissing all over the rug, getting it on with strippers, and blaming others for your lack of respect? I would suggest to you that you take a step back and look at yourself first before you look at your wifes defects. You may find that there's a lot more you need to work with before you try to fix your wife. Good luck to you and keep coming back.