Originally Posted by thomas11

You are who you are Stewy. Sure, relationships require some effort, but if they are more work than they are worth, then do what you have to do. I can very much relate to your situation. When I was lubed up and I would do whatever, and the wife liked that part of it, but she knew I had to be drinking to open up like that. Now, I'm sober, I don't like doing "stuff". She hates that. But she'll take it over me being a drunk. I find things to keep myself busy. Its her responsibility to find things to keep her busy. She sometimes comes to me and says "I'm bored". I tell her to find something to do. Period. I wasn't put on this earth to entertain her.