You are who you are Stewy. Sure, relationships require some effort, but if they are more work than they are worth, then do what you have to do. I can very much relate to your situation. When I was lubed up and I would do whatever, and the wife liked that part of it, but she knew I had to be drinking to open up like that. Now, I'm sober, I don't like doing "stuff". She hates that. But she'll take it over me being a drunk. I find things to keep myself busy. Its her responsibility to find things to keep her busy. She sometimes comes to me and says "I'm bored". I tell her to find something to do. Period. I wasn't put on this earth to entertain her.