I have never been to ACA nor CoDA.. I have been to a few Al-Anon (for dealing with people in our lives that are addicted to something).. I also grew up w a dad who drank daily.. It was not easy, but today I have a choice to allow that to affect me or not; and as far as his drinking today my sponsor says, "your business stops at the end of your nose", "be an example" "attraction not promotion" "keep ur visits sweet and short but don't say anything out of anger that u may later regret". Grateful to have a sponsor that tells me how it is.